Hedonism – a declaration of well-being

My name is Talita, and I am a hedonist. Good food, good company, good music makes a good weekend.

Hedonist is a person who believes the pursuit of pleasure is the most important thing in life.

And why not. In the post For whom the bell tolls – just once…and those who remain standing, I repeat the life question on why chocolatiers insist on including chocolate coated marzipan in the tray.  

My ex-colleague had questioned why chocolatiers keep putting in the least favorite chocolates in the “All because the lady loves milk tray” boxes.

A selection of experiences

Because, quite simply, there are those favorite chocolates to savor and appreciate. 😊 .

Philosophical hedonists focus on the hedonistic theories of value, especially the good life of the one living it.

Hedonism is a school of thought that argues seeking pleasure and avoiding suffering are the only components of well-being.

Ethical hedonism is the view that combines hedonism with welfarist ethics. What we should do depends exclusively on what affects the well-being of individuals.

This has been a weekend of the good life. Thanks for a great Friday night Rika, and again, happy 50th! Talk about good food + good company + good music = good vibes.

So, this weekend, less words, and more visual story telling of the hedonistic life, and the inspiration for #popuprestaurantdreams.

This storyboard shares 50 random kitchen experiments (and yes, bravely declares some disasters), all fueled by AF cocktails. Because who can resist cooking a great meal, without a glass of something in the hand.

I hope these inspire some experiments of your own.

Farm produce

Freshly baked sourdough – with farm fresh mulberry preserve , courtesy of Sylvia

For whom the bell tolls – just once…and those who remain standing

It was a mixed bag week. To quote a famous move line “Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you are going to get”.

A variety of Vanilla Christmas Biscuits – no dudds!

Or, to paraphrase an ex-colleague (very logical question Ansie!) “is there some cost saving, or subsidy related reason that chocolate factories keep putting those least favourites in the box of treats?”

It may be useful to create some context for you on my mixed bag week. On Thursday, I stepped into a meeting after just receiving some downright maleficent news. (That one is for you Uwe 😉 ) .

Maleficent is used to describe harm or destruction, especially caused by supernatural means.

The news was not exactly caused by some unexplained force, although human failings are sometimes simply outside of any reasonably explainable realm. It does not matter what the news was, but it did put my entire being in the most foulest state of mind. And just as we are about to start the meeting, the clock tower outside struck. Hence the title. Someone was going to bleed. As in: take all the resources that a person or thing has available…. ☹

It struck only once – was that a good sign, or a bad sign?

For whom the vultures wait – at sunset in Kwando

It reminds me of a poem I wrote as a teenager, while listening to

I wonder about thunder,
When bells chime, it might be the time.
Who might know, who might care
Before God every soul is bare

Please forgive my small belief.
Of reason I was bereaved,
When I realised what it meant,
That this, could be the world's end.

All this despair reminds me of a joke Loni used to tell. Paddy & Murphy went to a costume party, dressed as emotions. Wait, perhaps not suitable for general audience (teehee).

This kind of event happens all the time, to all the people. It represents a choice. You do not have a choice in greeting such news, but you can choose how to react. That whole “Your perception is your reality” kind of vibe.

What could be perceived as the ocean, is in fact the desert – one of my printed photographs.

And its true.

I could have chosen to play drama queen and throw my toys out the cot. This is something I easily do. But on this day, I chose not to. I chose to park it for a minute, and as is nearly always the case, further facts revealed themselves. And the situation may still be dire, but there is also an opportunity to bring about constructive change. I left the meeting feeling like there was an opportunity to kill two birds with one stone. And what is more, I think there is now more understanding about the point I was trying to reach. As opposed to a poorly understood directive, which would consequently be poorly implemented.

That is the short cut to a long-winded message – I believe that the end goal is more important, than the way you get there. Of course, you cannot head in the opposite direction and expect to get there, but there is more than one way to get there. And its much more fun, and more sustainable, if there are people on the bus with you.

Panorama shot attempt number n+1 🙂

The other part of the mixed bag news is that a company restructure left someone especially important to me, out in the cold. And it is minus degrees outside. At the start of this COVID pandemic, I had visions of us reverting to a barter economy, the financial and government systems collapsing, and eking out an existence in a post-apocalyptic washed up world. So, my opinion, which I continue to share readily, was that entrepreneurship was the solution for us and our children. Kind of:

  • What problem can you solve for someone?
  • Who will pay for that solution?
  • Do you enjoy doing that?

These words are intended to convey the silver lining around the cloud, and convince you that there is always hope, maybe just around the corner.

A break in the clouds – always makes a good photograph

And big mouth Horn as I must sometimes grudgingly admit, likes to pretend that I am taking on such an uncertain challenge by taking on a new venture by way of living off the land. But I am not all the way there yet. I do not have to be all the way there yet. Tethered to the security blanket of a stable job, albeit in an at-risk industry.

Now I am sharing these words with someone who is important to me. And I have only some, but not all, the experience to share with this person. So, I do not quite know how to convince the person.

But what I do know, is what Captain James T Kirk said, “I have no idea what I’m supposed to do, I only know what I can do”. He knows what he can do, and that potential option he shared, is so very very exciting. Imagine solving someone’s furniture and fittings problems, in a way that is unique to them and their circumstances. And connecting through your carefully crafting hands, to a concept coming to life. Flat two-dimensional shapes, being aligned, fitted, planed, polished, and buffed to become that perfect solution to someone’s need.

The future is scary, but by golly, it is exciting!

Khaudom experience – fun with 4 friends, 4 years ago

To celebrate spending the weekend with friends on their farm, which we have not done since our farm found us, I am sharing this old story of our adventure. It is the kind of story I would like to share widely. The tales of adventures that will surely attract kindred adventurers from afar.

Come to Namibia, bring your friends, and experience nature and space like nowhere else.

An introduction to Guptas – nostalgia on a sword

To quote Alanis Morissette, “isn’t it ironic”, that I write so much about doing the right thing, and good corporate governance, and then name a dish we were first introduced to in Turkeia, as Guptas?

Anthony, Fanie and me, visiting Carol (& Sureya) in Istanbul

The reason why, is because the husband likes to replace words with similar sounding, often used words, regardless of their meaning. So, Koftas became Guptas. Because we talk so much about corruption…..

By the way, I have discovered the reason why one must knead bread, specifically sour dough bread, twice. Some would say I can call this experiment “rock bread”, Being a lifestyle optimist, I prefer to say that I have discovered the perfect way to make melba toast. This post represents a test to “the husband”, to see how long it takes him to read my posts. Because I am sure I am going to get a picture from him enjoying his “lightly toasted lunch” before even reaching the office. And once he reads this post, I will get some commentary about the standard of today’s fare.

Once knead sourdough melba toast…

Anyway, I promised the recipe for the Guptas:

MinceMaybe about 500g, which should make about 10-12 Guptas
OnionsGrate the onions, or even better, use caramelized onions.
Did you know you can make caramelized onions in the slow cooker? And you do not need to use sugar! (Thanks for that inspiration Neil)
Slice of breadTo bulk the mince a bit, I like to soak a slice of bread in milk.
In this specific case, we did not have any, so I used about half a cup of Jungle oats, which also acts as binding agent.
Binding agent (egg or Jungle Oats)Use an egg, maybe two for firmer kebabs.
Or, if you soak half a cup of Jungle oats in warm milk, stirring well to create that glue texture, that worked very well.
That is something we often must do at the farm, replace a missing ingredient.
Did you know, you can use mushed butter beans instead of butter? Great keto recipes to be had there!
Sunflower seedsYes, you read right.
Sunflower seeds give a really good texture to the kebabs. Maybe about half a cup or so.
There is the story where our travelling troupe of 3 ended in an anonymous village in Turkeia. We had settled into our family room “pansione” and heard loud music. We traced the music to the square, where a traditional wedding was taking place. We were invited to join the peasant “tannies” on their chairs, shelling and snacking on sunflower seeds.
I can’t remember, Anthony, did you take the bride for a spin on the dancefloor?
Baking powderNo more than a tablespoon.
It makes the gupta’s a little lighter.
SpicesHere I use what comes to hand first.
Usually Paprika (including smoked Paprika – gives a nice tang)
Curry
Salt (depending whether you also add Soya), Worcester sauce etc. Any of the “black sauces“ that are usually left in the door of the fridge.
Secret ingredientFish sauce.
I know, smells terrible, but the Umami that brings, is incredible.
I previously described Umami as the “Aromat” of flavours. It is defined as one of the basic 5 flavours, and it is the one that brings everything together quite nicely.
It has also been described as the flavour that develops with leftover lasagne, or braaivleis that you find in the fridge the next day.
Introducing the elements of Guptas

Mix all of these ingredients really well, targeting even distribution of the myriad of flavours and textures, and form rugby ball type shapes on pre-soaked wooden sticks, or if you happen to have those dramatic Turkish swords, nice! Layer them on oiled tin foil. The reason will be apparent shortly.

Make these earlier in the day, so that they can settle in the fridge. But if you are pressed for time, leave them in the deepfreeze while the fire is being prepared.

Now you can braai them on the normal grid, which is ideal. But if the mince did not “settle in”, you may find they fall apart in the process. That is why I use tinfoil. I transfer (or more correctly, I have The Husband transfer) the batch on its tin foil to the grid. Once the tin foil side is nicely done, flip over the grid to the open side, to develop that “braai” flavour. You may choose to remove the tinfoil now, and “smoke” both sides.

The nostalgia on a sword part!

The base case side dish was a butternut-based recipe.

Cube the butternut. Small pieces work well, because they provide flavour bursts in the salad.

Roast in the oven with olive oil, spices (salt & pepper, a dash of cayenne pepper). No, caramelize in the oven is a better description.

Toss together with prepared Cous-Cous (another staple base case ingredient).

Add something sweet (Dried cranberries – an excellent super food, or chopped dates).

Add a zing. Always, a zing for the base case salad. I have not tried fresh or pickled ginger in this version, but there is no reason it cannot work. Here, I added mint from the garden.

Likely, you do not even need a salad dressing for this one.

This was going to be another test, to see if I could write and load a post within half an hour. But I am having too much fun, and I do need to run a spell check, and my lift to the office is about to leave, so I guess this blog wont make it to live status today.

Oh well, hope you get it in time to plan your weekend menu!

PS – serve with “uch effes” – Try ordering that in Turkeia, and see what you get….